The “Why me?”

Very often people place questions before me. Like “Why me? What have I done to receive this pain, this sadness or this kind of treatment?”. It always made me speechless to answer that. I may have a pleasing answer today.

According to human nature, we never ask questions like these for the gifts and privileges we receive. This is because we believe we deserve all the happiness, gifts and privileges. We feel that happiness is our birthright. Yes, that is true. But if happiness is our birthright then doesn’t it make grief/sadness our birthright too?

All the time we argue about life not being fair but do we really want it fair or do we just want happiness and contentment all the time? I think the almighty sitting above all of us is pretty much good at accounts. Maybe he knows what to debit and what to credit and who are we doubting his concepts?.

One thing I was being taught for years in my life was to catch the direction of the flow. The flow will decide where we should be taken and where to be picked up from. Life happens there where the flow stops. But we are all so afraid of the flow because of where it will drive us to and that is understandable. But when we go against the flow, some of us get lucky while some of us get lost. The truth is still undiscovered. One thing I am sure of is When we are not the driver of our destiny, we are always afraid of the destination.

The flow would not always be good, it will be bad sometimes. We just not have to unsettle the flow with the “why me” because it’s not just you, it’s all of us. It’s all of us in the flow different from one another.

The way you are

When a change takes place in life, it’s a whole lot of different experiences that kick in. I recognise change as the most powerful as well as a meaningful instrument in the universe. The power of it can either destroy or save the world.

Well, it had been said that change is something that comes from within. So, let’s talk about the world within us. Naturally, it changes the way you are for better or worse. Sometimes, the change you feel good about may not necessarily be good for you.

A change in your behaviour will affect your loved ones and when it becomes regular, it transforms into a habit. This could influence and bring changes in the behaviour of the people around you and it will form a chain in no time. If you look at the larger picture, one person adopting a negative change in life can affect dozens of other people associated.

A negative change is very much like covid-19, happens to one, affects dozens.

On the other hand, an unusual change takes away your authenticity. The thing that makes you you. I understand the point that circumstances force you to change your behaviour but it can equally change the behaviour of the people you love and nothing will ever be the same again. You will always lose some people at different times in life but you must never lose yourself in the process. Trust me on this, you will miss the old you at the end. Stop pushing your people and realise the worth of their character to save your relationships. Your sentiments are your superpower in a world full of insensitive species.

You are the best just the way you are!😉

Cheers!